Start with two perspectives
Your choices explores your own responses. Your ideal partner explores choices relating to the person you would like to meet. Your personal assessment becomes available once you have completed both sessions.
Your personal chemistry map: four areas of self-reflection
This view explores the relationship between your own choices and your picture of a desired partner. Use the panel buttons to move between four areas. Each offers several perspectives: What you show at first; Hidden counterpoint; The partner you are drawn to; Relationship key.
1. Sensitivity and drive
Notice how emotional attunement relates to taking initiative. When do you enjoy the other person making the first move, and when do you prefer to take the lead?
2. Structure, self-image and autonomy
Consider the arrangements that help you feel like yourself and how much space you need. How would you balance shared plans with time on your own?
3. Self-assertion and visibility
Reflect on how you express your wishes and respond to feedback. What helps you speak openly about a need that matters to you?
4. Openness and attachment
Think about how curiosity about new experiences fits alongside lasting connection. Which shared routine would feel reassuring, and where would you welcome variety?
Your relationship map: five dimensions
The relationship map compares two people’s tests across five dimensions. Explore the individual areas alongside the overall result to turn a match into a more personal conversation.
1. Core values
Principles relating to important life questions, boundaries and the future. Ask each other: “Which three things would you want more of in a life together?”
2. How you show up as a couple
How do you stand together around family, friends and other people? Ask: “What does it look like when a partner supports you in a social situation?”
3. Responses to real-life situations
Explore responses to change, decisions and disagreements. Ask: “How do you usually react when weekend plans change unexpectedly?”
4. Mutual support
Consider emotional attention and practical help. Ask: “After a difficult day, would you prefer someone to listen, help you find a solution or give you some quiet time?”
5. Relationship harmony
Explore closeness, independence and everyday rhythms. Ask: “What balance of shared activities and time to yourself would feel good?”
A fictional example: caring in different ways
After a difficult day, Anna wants to talk while Ben immediately looks for a solution. Mutual support gives them a useful starting point for discussing what feels helpful. Anna might say, “It would help if you listened first.” Ben could ask, “Would you like us to work through a solution together?” This is a fictional illustration, not a user story or a calculated test result.
Take one relationship key with you
Choose one observation, one question and one small step to try. For example, explain the kind of attention you appreciate, ask what the other person needs and notice how it feels in practice. This is how self-reflection gains meaning in your own life.
Start with your own perspective
Create your account, then explore the two visual-choice tests at your own pace.
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